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For the Love of Ten

February 28, 2016 By Kathy Radigan

1 For the love of Ten

This morning Peter ran into my room, very excited to show me the telescope and binoculars he made from paper, tape and staples.

“Can I bring them with me when Tom and I visit Grandpa today? I want to show them to him.”

“Of course. I think he will love to see them.”

“Mom, they aren’t real you know. He broadly smiles and starts to laugh.”

“Yes, I know.” Now we are both laughing.

“Mom, can I get a big hug?”

With that he jumps in my arms, and I feel his skinny arms around my neck. He kisses me on my cheek and then I kiss him right back. His skin is so soft.

What a contrast from his 17 year old brother — whose face now sports a shaggy beard. Tom rarely kisses me on my cheek anymore because he favors the top of my head. It’s easy for him to get to because he is at least five inches taller than me.

Peter is the only member of my family that is still shorter than me.  And I love it. I love 10 years old.

I’m doing my best to savor every bit of this age before we move on to 11, which will bring middle school, a few pimples, and probably braces.

I only have a few more weeks left in the land of 10. Because he is my youngest, it will be my very last visit.

He is changing almost by the hour. I can see glimpses of what’s to come. One minute he is hugging me and asking me questions about what he was like as a baby. The next he is complaining that he is not old enough to drive or shave.

I love 10 because, although he can do so much more for himself, he is still a child. He now only needs to be reminded, (usually a million times) to brush his teeth and take a shower. I no longer have to stand watch over him or wait near the bathroom just in case he gets into trouble with the shampoo.

Peter still thinks I’m cool and smart. He comes to me with his questions and problems fully expecting me to be able to help him. When we go to the library or out for a slice of pizza, he will even occasionally let me take his hand.

He no longer needs me to wait for his bus each day, but he is always glad to see me when I do.  Since I have two teenagers, this is really good for my ego. He hasn’t given me the eye roll yet that Tom and Lizzy have mastered.

But it’s coming. I know it is.

It such a cliche to say it all goes so by fast, but boy, does it all go by so fast.

The other night at dinner, the kids and I were eating and talking about the latest movies we wanted to see and the day’s events. They all seemed so grownup. I couldn’t take it a minute longer. If I couldn’t stop them from getting older, at least I could act younger.

I threw a spitball at Tom, who laughed at me and threw it back. Peter looked up at us and said, “Mom, this is not the way we behave at the table. How many times do we have to talk about this?”  He then went and gargled with his ice tea, making us all crack up.  I then felt his arms wrap around me. “I love you, Mom.”

Yes, I’m going to miss 10.

Filed Under: Motherhood Tagged With: age ten, growing up, motherhood, youngest children

Comments

  1. Janine Huldie says

    February 28, 2016 at 11:21 pm

    Aw, it definitely does go by way too quickly and am trying my best to enjoy as much of this time with my own girls as I know I will blink to find them teenagers before I know it, too. Hugs xoxo

    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 12:47 pm

      Thanks! The speed at which it goes by is breathtaking! xo

  2. Lisa Weinstein says

    February 29, 2016 at 7:02 am

    Kathy it does fly by so fast, but I simply love the adventure that comes with each age! Happy early 11th birthday to Peter!!!

    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 12:46 pm

      Thanks Lisa, it’s great for me to remember that each age is a wonderful adventure! xo

  3. Andrea Brovetto says

    February 29, 2016 at 7:29 am

    I love this post!!! Yes it does go so fast
    I can’t believe my Peter will be 11!
    God Bless. Love you Mom

    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 12:45 pm

      Thanks mom! xoxo

  4. Estelle says

    February 29, 2016 at 6:44 pm

    Aw! What a sweetie. Like his mom!
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    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 12:45 pm

      Thank you sweet friend! xo

  5. [email protected] says

    February 29, 2016 at 10:11 pm

    It seems like yesterday that my sons were 10. It’s such a sweet age. And your Peter is such a sweetie! Savor every minute. It really does go by quick, my friend! xo
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    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 12:44 pm

      It does go by way too fast!!! Thanks sweet friend! xo

  6. Sam says

    March 1, 2016 at 7:09 am

    Lol I love the way your son schooled you regarding proper table manners. This was beautiful. My own boys are only three, and I already feel those odd mixed feelings, loving their growing independence but missing the days when they relied on me for so much.

    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 12:44 pm

      Sam I felt like that at each stage, but really felt it the most with Peter since he is my last. Thanks for making my day! xo

  7. Kristen says

    March 1, 2016 at 8:27 am

    Awww so sweet! And glad to hear they are still affectionate at 10!

    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 12:42 pm

      I have done 10 three times now, and yes, they still are. It’s a really sweet time! Thanks!

  8. Dara says

    March 1, 2016 at 12:28 pm

    I have an almost 11 year old too, but she is my oldest!

    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 12:42 pm

      11 is very nice too! Good luck to you and your soon to be 11 year old!

  9. Lisa Sadikman says

    March 1, 2016 at 1:46 pm

    This is great Kathy! I love that you decided to act like a kid yourself – perfect! My middle girl just turned 11 and you’re right, just like that she’s in the land of tweens and all that comes with it. She does still like to hug though.

    • Kathy Radigan says

      March 1, 2016 at 7:13 pm

      Good to know she still likes to hug!! It does go by so fast!! xo

  10. Laurie Stone says

    March 2, 2016 at 10:46 am

    So sweet. I also have two sons and remember those years well. Sounds like you have a close relationship with your kids which will continue as they grow older. Being a mother is a gift.
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