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Always on Sunday

February 15, 2015 By Kathy Radigan

Always on Sunday
Two hours go by, three, then four. Nothing.

Still I sit and type because it’s Sunday, and I have a deadline.

I’ve wracked my brain trying to come up with something new. At this point I would even settle for something old.

I’ve hounded my husband, bothered my friends, and even pleaded with my kids.

Every single idea refuses to grow into an essay.

I will myself to keep going. I must make my deadline. Legions of my fans will be crushed if they go to their computers tomorrow morning, and a new post from me and my dishwasher isn’t there to greet them.

OK. Maybe not legions of fans. Maybe one of my sisters and my best friend, as long as they’re not busy.

Truth be told the only one who would probably know I didn’t meet my deadline this week is me.

And for the first time in my life, that’s the only person who matters.

When I started the blog four years ago, I promised myself that come hell, high water, or sick kids, I’d write one essay each week.

It didn’t have to be the best thing ever written. It could even be a piece from the past that I “re-visited,” but it had to be something.

I did this because I have a habit of letting myself get sidelined.

After all I’m a mom. I tend to put the needs of others before mine. That’s my job. The job I happily signed on to 16 years ago. A job I love. And one that’s starting to change.

My kids are getting older. Tom, the baby that started my adventure into motherhood is 16. Our daughter, Lizzy, is 13, and even the baby of the family isn’t really a baby anymore. As much as it kills me to admit this, Peter is a few months shy of his tenth birthday.

It may feel as if I’ll never have a morning when I’m not fielding questions about what we’re having for dinner or the wisdom of wrapping oneself in duct tape, or reminding someone not to kill their brother while I’m still half asleep, I know soon enough, my house will be quiet again.

So I write.

I write to remember a time before I had children. When the biggest decision Joe and I had to make was where to go to dinner that night.

I write to remember the days, weeks, months, and years I was desperate to see a beating heartbeat on a sonogram. Or the three times in my life when I did.

I write to remember what it was like to be a new mother and have no idea what I was doing with my beautiful son. The days when I would look at him and wonder what the heck he and God were thinking picking me as his mother.

I write to share some of the experiences we’ve had raising a daughter with significant special needs. Sometimes sharing the harder days of watching her struggle with a disorder that has no name. Sometimes sharing the funnier days, like the day Lizzy decided to tell me to go jump in a lake during Christmas dinner at my in-laws.

I write to remember that I can plan all I want, but sometimes life throws an amazing curve my way. Such as the day I stared in disbelief at the pregnancy test that told me I was having a third baby even though we were told it was almost impossible.

I write to reclaim a piece of myself. Perhaps to find a new career path when my job as full time caregiver is over and I become more of a consultant to my growing kids.

I write to remember that I am more than a mother, wife, daughter, sister, and friend.

I write each Sunday hoping that when I hit publish I will entertain or touch at least one person.

And I write each Sunday because I made a promise to myself that I would.

This is an updated version of a piece that was published on the Dishwasher, 2/23/14 under the title, I Write Therefore I Am.

Filed Under: Beyond Mom Tagged With: blogging, keeping promises, miscarriage, motherhood, Special Needs, Writing

Comments

  1. Joyful says

    February 15, 2015 at 11:05 pm

    Good for you. It is important for each of us to have a creative outlet.

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 16, 2015 at 1:43 pm

      You are so right! Thanks!

  2. Jennifer says

    February 15, 2015 at 11:34 pm

    and I’m so glad you do! It’s been wonderful to get to know you over the last few years through your stories!
    Jennifer recently posted…A Long-Ago Valentine’s DayMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 16, 2015 at 1:42 pm

      Thank you so much sweet friend! It’s been fun to get to know you through your work too. I think we started blogging around the same time! xo

  3. Kari says

    February 16, 2015 at 12:47 am

    You made a promise to yourself and you kept it. Good for you!!
    Kari recently posted…How my teenager improved my day without saying a wordMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 16, 2015 at 1:41 pm

      Thanks so much! xo

  4. Janine Huldie says

    February 16, 2015 at 6:15 am

    I think you know I write for similar reasons, too, but like you I have had my moments where the words don’t always come as easily. Just glad they are few and far between though 😉
    Janine Huldie recently posted…50 Shades of Poop Obsessed For MomsMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 16, 2015 at 1:41 pm

      It’s such a crummy feeling when the words won’t come!! xox

  5. Kristen says

    February 16, 2015 at 9:41 am

    Well you entertained me and have a new fan. I will sit breathlessly waiting every Monday morning for your newest post, because you are awesome. I too write for the similar reasons you shared, and even more so to cleanse. Happy to meet you and discover your work…
    Kristen recently posted…30 Easy Steps to Take Your Kids to a Public BathroomMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 16, 2015 at 1:41 pm

      Thank you so much Kristen! You made my day!

  6. Ice Scream Mama says

    February 16, 2015 at 1:23 pm

    I feel like I’m in the same boat every other week looking for inspiration. I write all the time but sometimes I just fake it till I make it.
    Ice Scream Mama recently posted…Even when your heart stops, the clock keeps tickingMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 16, 2015 at 1:40 pm

      Alisa it’s so funny that you said this because as I was going through it I thought, I bet Alisa never goes through this!! Lol! xo

  7. Aussa Lorens says

    February 16, 2015 at 1:23 pm

    I’ve not been blogging nearly as long, but already I find the ability to look back and have such a detailed account of the big–and mundane– happenings to be indescribably valuable.
    Aussa Lorens recently posted…10 Signs Your Man is Cheating on YouMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 16, 2015 at 1:39 pm

      Aussa I have to say that it’s been very nice, especially with the kids. I can go back and read things that I forgot. xo

  8. Julia says

    February 16, 2015 at 1:31 pm

    I write for so many of those reasons.
    Julia recently posted…Surviving Snow Days With KidsMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 16, 2015 at 1:38 pm

      Thanks for dropping by. xo

  9. Lisa Weinstein says

    February 16, 2015 at 4:24 pm

    You touched me..you always do!

  10. [email protected] says

    February 16, 2015 at 4:25 pm

    Kathy you came up with a magical post this week. And there is nothing better than the feeling you get when you push that single word…Publish! xoxo
    [email protected] recently posted…Skinny Chicken Chow MeinMy Profile

  11. Myke Todd says

    February 16, 2015 at 4:45 pm

    I appreciate self imposed deadlines. I used to post an average of five blogs per week and often went daily. Now, I limit myself to one a month on my poetry page. If others pop up, that is fine, but I guarantee to post the monthly one. I have had to write it on the day I posted, because I am a last minute kind of guy.
    Myke Todd recently posted…Sleeping On a Train (sonnet)My Profile

  12. Joy says

    February 16, 2015 at 5:39 pm

    I’ve been blogging for years but I’ve really only recently convinced myself that the most important thing is that I write, even though it’s not perfect or the best or ‘feature’-worthy. I thank you, Kathy, for highlighting a very important lesson for me–that we must be clear as to why we write. And really from there, beautiful things can flow. Thank you and glad you keep writing, my friend!
    Joy recently posted…My Fair Share of Blind DatesMy Profile

  13. Liv says

    February 16, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Thank you for continuing – I nominated you for an inspirational blogger award this week – as I always find your posts inspiring. http://livebysurprise.blogspot.ca/2015/02/i-am-inspired.html
    Liv recently posted…My Lawyer’s Worst ClientMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 17, 2015 at 12:53 pm

      Thank you so much!! You made my day!
      Kathy Radigan recently posted…Always on SundayMy Profile

  14. Andrea Brovetto says

    February 17, 2015 at 12:46 am

    Good post Kathy and I am proud if you! Keeping a deadline is hard! Congratulations ! One of my favorite writers was Erma Brombeck and your posts remind me 0f hers! ! Very Real !

  15. Jack says

    February 17, 2015 at 11:40 am

    I am a big fan of self imposed deadlines and the benefits that come with learning how to meet them. Writing is a skill and you can improve but only if you make an effort.

    Deadlines help with that, but there are those moments where they make you scream too. 🙂
    Jack recently posted…Blogging Is About StorytellingMy Profile

    • Kathy Radigan says

      February 17, 2015 at 12:54 pm

      Jack I would never have stayed with it if I didn’t make that promise to myself. I agree that the more you write the better you get!! Thanks so much!
      Kathy Radigan recently posted…Always on SundayMy Profile

  16. Kerry says

    February 18, 2015 at 5:27 pm

    I’m trying to commit to my writing as well, but it is so tough when you face a block. Ugh! Still, I’m trying to be consistent and work through it. Some weeks my posts feel week, and at other times I’m proud. I find you just have to keep working your craft. Thanks for the inspiration.
    Kerry recently posted…Check Box ParentingMy Profile

  17. Deborah says

    February 18, 2015 at 8:34 pm

    I’ve starved my blog for far too long, and yet it gives me so much pleasure to feed it. Thank you for the inspiration.
    Deborah recently posted…Starbucks Oppresses Jewish TeabaggersMy Profile

  18. stacey says

    February 19, 2015 at 11:02 am

    You Can Write! – Erma’s favorite compliment. Now it is for you! Keep on truckin’ girl!!
    stacey recently posted…Hey, Nurse! That is NOT a SmudgeMy Profile

  19. Linda Roy says

    February 19, 2015 at 11:11 am

    My first year blogging I wrote every day. it built up my archives, but most importantly, it helped me to improve my writing. I found that I missed it if I skipped a day. I don’t blog every day anymore, but I still feel that twinge that something is missing if I go too long without it. It’s good to set personal goals and deadlines even if we’re the only ones who know about them. It keeps us sharp and focused. Even more than a bowl of Mini Wheats. 😉 I hate those days when the ideas won’t come though. I get that a lot lately!
    Keep on rocking it my friend! xo
    Linda Roy recently posted…Passive Aggressive PoetryMy Profile

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